Keeping Your Marriage Bump Free and Going Strong for A Long Time
July 31st, 2011Is there anything that can be more profitable, more satisfying and yet infrequently more maddening and annoying than being in a relationship? And I do realize that being in a closeness is a relationship but Im talking about living with someone, whether married or living together in a committed relationship. Occasionally I feel just like the happiest person ever to find my friend while other times I think cant they just get lost and not find their way home? I don’t truly mean that but Im sure anyone who has been in a relationship for any amount of time past the novelty period understand what I am saying.
As we truly do love and appreciate the person we have decided to give ourselves to to mind , body and even spirit, we will often go to some far out lengths to keep it going and to keep it happy. Now mind you, I know its the same for my partner as well because let’s accept it, everybody has our moments when we are able to test even the individual that loves us the most. I’m sure we all sacrifice in the same ways and then many of us do things folks would never imagine. Ive even gone as far as removing the television from the bedroom, which I cant remember ever doing to using pillow speakers under my pillow so I can hear music as I fall asleep and not wake my loving partner. Yes, there is a twinge of sarcasm in there for sure. I’m of the opinion that doesnt sound like a stretch to several of you but listen to me, it was difficult to do for me.
But why do we do it, really? Why do we are going to such lengths to keep our chum cheerful and to keep the relationship strong and last when as they say, there are tons of fish in the sea? We all have our own reasons. Some people are just not confident enough that the’ll find another person to like them the same, particularly after some years have past and our bodies and looks have taken the toll and show the mileage we have added. And many of us actually do enjoy the relationship its just that sometimes we just want to be alone, though not for evermore.
Let us accept it. Wouldn’t it be the very best of all possible situations to have the one you adore available when it suited you best and at those self same times its when they wanted to be with you? And between wed be able to have our own space, our own life and do it our own way. But often you cannot have your cake and eat it to as it is asserted. So we make sacrifices and bend a bit, some too far and some not enough, to make it all work out.
And whenever I actually get exasperated and I feel hes driving me mad and I want to run for the hills screaming my head off is usually when out of nowhere he does something that reminds me of why I fell completely in love in the first place and entered the relationship happily and happily. I think Sick keep him.
Crizza Reyes writes for on health, the family and women’s issues.
For more information about pillow speakers, please visit her website.