There are many questions that people have about love. One of the biggest questions that people are likely to have about the mystery of love is whether or not marriage is the inevitable outcome. The answer is that there is no actual answer. Marriage is a decision that is made between two people that love each other, certainly, but there is no actual guide to marriage or love that suggests that marriage is a “must”. Some people love each other for their entire lives without actually marrying. Marriage is an aspect of life that is entirely up to the individual and their concepts of commitment and love.

The secret to a happy marriage is, of course, love. When people talk about having the ultimate happy marriage, they are talking about being around the one they love as much as possible. For many people, marriage in those terms is the absolute apex of a love life. For others, however, a happy marriage may be no marriage at all. Some may find that spending their lives with one person is not satisfying in the least. They may wish for many more partners and many more experiences in order for their happiness to be realized. The question many people wonder about such lifestyles is about the role that love plays in their relationships.

There are many reasons besides love that people in today’s world marry and there are many reasons that those marriages end. The basic component in all of those types of relationships is selfishness and the desire to meet personal needs first and those of a partner second. It is for this reason that broken relationships appear to be on the rise. People are desiring more for themselves and less for others, leading to the inevitable deconstruction of relationship fundamentals such as trust and confidence.. With divorce and broken homes on the rise, an examination of what leads people to marry is probably in order.

The truth about love, is that there is no truth about love. There are only subjective ideas as to what marriage should be based on. In today’s cynical world, the foundation for many a relationship is bent on reliance on the other person and not on selfless love. The notions of marriage and family counseling are on the rise because people, on the whole, seem to have forgotten about love.

As society “evolves”, its relationship desires seem to deconstruct and the importance of love on relationships and on the workings of the world seem to diminish. In place of love, convenience and goal-oriented living can be found. While on their own, those aspects are more than suitable for reasonable living, without love they are insufficient for building a marriage that involves the trust and commitment of a partner for a lifetime.

Videography is an art. Yes a videographer needs the right equipment, but they must be creative. The videographer must have an eye for the right shot that will capture the emotion of the event in a few frames. Some of the most common videography you will come across is wedding videography.

A wedding day starts early in the morning with the preparations and getting ready. The ceremony in the day and the reception in the evening. It is a magical day full of family and friends. A videographer’s job is to capture hours and hours of the days events and put them into a powerful clipped movie. It takes hours to video the wedding, weeks to edit the video, and minutes to watch the video. A videographer has a big chore to fulfill in order to make the perfect video that will fit your personality.

Videographers take creativity and documentation and turn it into a sentimental video that will last a life time. Professional photographers must have the right equipment to work with. Ask the photographer about the video equipment they are using. Pannasonic video cameras seem to be popular among wedding videographers. Make sure the videographer is using a professional grade camera. If you get a discount videographer you are going to get a discount video.

Videographers must be informative with their clients. They must make sure that the video will be centered around the people that matter most to the bride and groom. Also they must make certain the video is going to be taken in the best lighting situation possible. Make sure you schedule photo shoots during the best lighting conditions. The videographer will be right beside the photographer and the lighting will effect both professionals.

A videographer must be professional. Sometimes it is hard to find a person that is good at art and is still a good business professional. A videographer must possess both attributes. Painting a picture through video won’t do any good if it doesn’t have a driven purpose. That purpose being to deliver a stunning video that communicates to the end user. It is business because business is about people. People don’t buy anything unless it reaches them. The videographer must be able to reach the bride and groom through video.

Price isn’t everything, but it is important. A discount videographer will probably spend a couple hours to video and edit your video. Trust me when I say the result will be less than spectacular. My sister did a discount videographer and her entire reception is fuzzy black silhouettes and some muffled sounds. In order for videographers to make a successful business they must charge accordingly. A professional video should range in price form $1,000-$4,000 depending on what is offered. High definition videos can be higher than that because of the added time it takes to process the footage and the cost of equipment.

A wedding video is worth it’s wait in gold. Especially down the road when memories begin to fade and when the newly-wed veil begins to fall. It will be a nice reminder to witness the magic of that special day for years to come.

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1. A confident & secure woman REPOSITIONS HERSELF

A confident woman never forgets the one thing that never changes –THINGS CONSTANTLY CHANGE.

With the winds of change ever blowing, a secure woman realizes that she may not currently possess all the tools that will take her to her goal, but she’s always ready to learn what she needs to know in order to get there. This may mean going back to school, changing job or vocations or even moving to a different location, but she is ready, willing and able to adapt to changing circumstances.

2. A confident & secure woman KNOWS HOW TO GIVE AND TAKE

A confident woman understands that the gift is in the giving. She knows the laws that tell her what she gives will return to her several times over. She will give her time, energy and even her heart to those who need her. However, she also knows that she is not a super human and she does not over-extend herself. She regularly takes time for herself! She also recognizes that she has limits and, at times, finds herself in a position of needing assistance and is not afraid to ask for what she needs.

3. A confident & secure woman LIVES IN THE PRESENT

Dwelling on the past or worrying about the future is the bread of idleness that a confident woman refuses to eat. When recalling the past, she does not allow herself to dwell there but, rather, refocuses on the here and now. She understands that her past experiences, whether joyful or painful, are a part of her and have made her the confident person that she is today. She learns from the past and uses that information for current decision making. She has hopes for the future and engages in the occasional daydream while keeping herself solidly in the present tense of her life.

4. A confident & secure woman KEEPS HERE EYE ON THE PRIZE

Not everything we do comes up roses. To expect perfection is cavalier, but to know that mistakes are a part of the journey is wisdom. This knowledge allows the confident woman to refuse to pity herself when something doesn’t turn out as she’d hoped or expected it would.

5. A confident & secure woman KNOWS HOW TO SAY NO

Women have too little time and too much responsibility. The demands of jobs, child care, household duties, etc. are often draining. Having time to herself seems to be a far-fetched dream for many women.

The confident woman knows her limits and her need for self care. She understands that in order to be able to accomplish all that she wants/needs to do, she MUST have adequate energy reserves from which to draw. While sympathetic and even flattered when her phone rings off the hook with others making requests of her, she is able to pick and choose those people or causes to which/whom she will devote her time and energy. She knows when she needs to politely decline so that she will have time to recharge herself or to ward off becoming overwhelmed. She also does not feel a need to offer apologies or excuses for needing to do so.

6. A confident & secure woman TRUSTS HER INNER VOICE

While she may occasionally feel uncertain or seek the counsel of others, the confident woman knows deep down that her own heart will give her the direction she needs. While this intuition may be said to be a characteristic of all women, it is one that becomes refined only with age, wisdom and experience. The secure woman will carefully consider all the information at her disposal, seek advice from those she respects and then turn to that little voice inside of herself and become her own best counsel.

7. A confident & secure woman DOESN’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF

If we allow ourselves to think too much about something or consider every little thing that could possibly come up or go awry, we can soon make mountains out of molehills. The secure woman is able to separate the chaff from the grain and focus only on those things of primary concern to her in any situation. She does not micro manage herself or her affairs. Rather, she focuses on the broader picture along with the key ingredients that are needed to solve her problem or reach her goal. She possesses inner strength and the wisdom to be able to create, change and adapt as necessary.

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Scott Smallwood is the creator and founder of Honest To God Coaching, a healing and transformative coaching program exclusively for women. http://www.scottsmallwood.org