Emotional affair?
February 2nd, 2008
Has anyone ever heard of an emotional affair? I was watching Dr. Phil the other day and heard him tell the lady she was having an emotional affair.
What exactly do you think this entails.
Give me details.
Have you ever experienced an emotional affair?
Do you think this is cheating?
And why?
I feel it is cheating and wrong.
And one should avoid any persons if an emotional affair is at risk.
February 3rd, 2008 at 1:38 pm
It means you get all of your emotional needs met by another man and not your husband. And it is just as unacceptable as physically cheating.
February 4th, 2008 at 3:58 pm
yes- that’s why it is sooooo difficult to have friends that are men. you can not be just friends with attraction!
i have never had one but i have lusted before and the guilt and shame is not worth it
February 5th, 2008 at 11:19 am
An emotional affair is where there is intimacy but not physical sex. If you spend more time talking to another man instead of your husband, you tell him your problems and worries, he’s the one you turn to when you feel down or hurt, that is an emotional affair. And yes it’s cheating. The dictionary describes cheating as “depriving of or taking away, lying, deceitful…etc) so when you think that the man you married is supposed to come first, he’s supposed to be your back-bone, the one you go to in good times and bad, then you are certainly depriving, taking away, being deceitful and most often you’ll lie about it if asked. Now granted, talking is not a strong point of most men. And the men who befriend married women and talk, talk, talk are only really trying to get into her pants and know the road to this is to be what her husband isn’t - listen to her. That is how most physical affairs begin, for women anyway, they begin with emotional affairs.
February 7th, 2008 at 2:25 am
Honestly its possible. It starts with friendship.
I was unlucky in the sense that I had to go back to my country for almost three months to sort out a fiance visa to get married to the person I love. When I came back, I found out he was spending lots of time online, playing this one game and constantly talking to this female on the game. They have never met. After a few weeks, the arguments started…he has lost complete interest in our relationship, and enjoys himself more when speaking to others online.
Eventually I saw he was starting to get emotionally involved with this women although he says he doesn’t think of her that way, but I put my foot down and said its either her or me. Because it was the beginning stages of feeling something for someone else, but yes, he would never admit it.
Its when someone wants to spend time together with that person… the whole “she is my friend only” type of thing and hardly ever do the same things with you, and also never want to introduce that person to you, that is where it all starts.
February 8th, 2008 at 12:54 am
Poison Ivy is right…..
February 11th, 2008 at 12:26 am
an emotional affair is definately cheating…it’s when your emotionally giving yourself to someone other then your mate…an emotional affair is whenever you tell someone other then your mate your toughts, feelings or problems…it’s really any conversation that is meant for you to share with your mate but your sharing it with a stranger of the opposite or same sex for that matter.
February 13th, 2008 at 11:43 am
an emotional affair is when you are emotionally bonded on a romantic level with another person. affairs are generally considered physical - as one usually thinks of it as having their physical needs taken care of by another. but, most of the time, there is an emotional aspect (primarily seen in women) that goes along with this - this is the thing that says “leave your husband/wife to be with another.” it’s like having this emotional bond and desire with another without necessarily having the physical.
February 15th, 2008 at 12:54 am
Emotional Affairs are very real, they are when the partner/spouse becomes more emotionally dependent on someone other then the other partner/spouse. Where most of the Emotional needs are being met by someone else. I have had personal experience with this being done, I was the victim and it hurts worse then anything physical. When your in love with someone it goes far past just sexual/physical contact and attachment it is a emotional bond. When that bond is betrayed it hurts down to the core of the person. Also it is harder to ever build back up, not impossible but more difficult. Once it is build back up to a point it will never be remotely the same or better then it was at one time (personal opinion). It is cheating, the most painful venue of cheating in my opinion.
February 16th, 2008 at 12:54 am
thats a bunch of bunk.
February 19th, 2008 at 5:41 am
An emotional affair is, for example, meeting someone online and growing feelings for them, but never having met them, discussing intimate things with them instead of with your spouse. Or spending time with someone of the opposite sex, not to the point ofsexually - but everything else - behind your spouse’s back.
Yes, it is cheating. Anything you take away from your spouse and give to another person is wrong - if you won’t do it right infrontof yourspouses face, then you know deep down what you are doing is wrong.
I’ve never been a victim of it, or done it myself - but I’ve had to deal with a lot of families in court that have been torn apart by this type of affair.
February 21st, 2008 at 9:54 pm
i was in one. it is where you get intimately involved with someone without the physical sex. it means sharing yourself with someone on a very personal level and things you should be sharing with your partner. i was cybering and sharing intimate details with a woman over the internet. it never became physical with her, but yes, it hurt my wife deeply, so i believe it is cheating. i have come to live by one rule, if you wouldnt do it with your wife standing beside you, it is obviously wrong.
February 22nd, 2008 at 11:40 pm
“Emotional” affair is getting obsessed with a person that you want to f8ck, but for whatever reason you haven’t gotten to it. Whether or not it’s cheating depends on your definition of cheating - cuz sure as hell there isn’t one objective definition that you can measure everything against.
February 25th, 2008 at 4:37 pm
No I’ve never experienced it and this is not an issue. My husband and I have never had or been in b/c we’ve talked about it. But I think it’s b/c we don’t allow others to enter into our life like that! We may be open to others in other ways but not emotionally we keep this to ourselves and between us - we have an understanding and he knows what I expect and I know what he expects… Some couples don’t have a clue of how to communicate to one another and/or don’t talk to one another like they should. So they go else where!
February 28th, 2008 at 8:23 pm
An affair is when you give something to someone that should be reserved for your spouse. This could be sex, attention, or emotional intimacy.
Being emotionally intimate with someone, without sex involved, is an emotional affair. And yes, it’s cheating.
March 2nd, 2008 at 5:15 am
I don’t know if I would consider this to be cheating. Sometimes the other spouse is just not an emotional person who readily likes to share with their wife/husband or if the person is single there may be no one else a person feels comfortable to share his/her feelings to. I have someone of the opposite sex confide in me about his work,health, and other personal aspects of his life, and believe me he is not looking to have an affair nor am I. We just some how developed an emotional bond. At this time in his life he needs for someone to listen to him for advice or someone who wont judge his actions.
March 4th, 2008 at 4:00 pm
Start at and type “emotional affair” in the search field. This will explain step by step what it is.
My husband left me last year shortly after our 25th anniversary for another woman, a coworker. He has spent the last year telling he parents he did nothing wrong since he did not have sex with her (he claims) until he moved out (even though we were still married). I struggled to explain to him how deep the betrayal was. I have cellphone records showing late night phone calls beginning between them 4 years before he left me. This includes during vacations, on birthdays, anniversarys, all occasions special to me.
I sent him an email after seeing the Dr Phil show with a copy of the Wikipedia explanation. I told him that it mattered not to me when he first had sex with her. She had been in our bed for years. Whether he read the email I’ll never know. But I am now at peace. There is no denying what he did. And there is no excuse for it.
He was my best friend. And he crossed a line when he began confiding his unhappiness to her. He spent so much time talking about our damaged marriage that he spent less and less time trying to fix it.
She did the same thing to her husband of 27 years. My ex is now married to her. And I now say good luck to them. If they betrayed those who loved them most, they’ll do it again.
My life is now, a year after the revelation of the betrayal, better than ever. I have rediscovered the friendship of other women. My job is secure. And our son is doing better in school since my ex left us to move out of state.
The destruction left behind by an emotional affair is something I would not wish on anybody. It involves whole families, friends, coworkers.
I recently had an old friend from many years ago look me up. We spoke several times before the conversation lead to how unhappy his marriage is. My advice: speak to his wife about it, not me. I asked that he never call me again. I am far too valuable a person to waste my time falling into the trap my ex did. I might be alone the rest of my life. But that’s okay. I will meet my Maker knowing that I kept those vows of 26 years ago. I am still deeply in love with the man I married.
Sometimes love does not die. But I would never take him back. And I will never do to another that which was done to me. Life’s too short. There are great things ahead for me.
March 5th, 2008 at 5:09 am
Emotional affairs are the inappropriate sharing of emotions with another.
When you interact with another person ANYTHING you wouldn’t want your significant other to hear or see, it’s cheating. It’s infidelity. It may not be adultery, but it’s cheating nonetheless.