How do I deal with a bitchy sister-in-law?
February 20th, 2008My brother got married to a real bitch. She orders him around and he listens to whatever she says. I am moving in with them, even if I dont want to. What should I do?
For example, a situation would be that I never get to have dinner but she is in her room eating w/e?
I meant like, what should I do, because she is really getting to me.
February 22nd, 2008 at 5:58 pm
adjust with them
February 23rd, 2008 at 4:07 pm
I would definetely not move in with them if I could help it. Who wants to live with a bitch? If you have to then I would stay out of her way until you can get out of there.
February 25th, 2008 at 5:48 pm
I have this very problem with one of my sister-in-laws..and i’ve just killed her with kindness.. now i know it would be harder because you are living with her…but if you are just the nicest, sweetest person to her.. than she might change her tune..I would also discuss your opinion of your brother’s wife with him and see what he suggests. Sorry for the crappy situation!
February 25th, 2008 at 10:33 pm
First, make sure she doesn’t know your Yahoo! Answers name and isn’t a regular user of this site.
February 26th, 2008 at 6:57 pm
You are living in her home so you really haven’t got a leg to stand on. Move out as soon as possible.
It is hard to see your brother get mistreated but it isn’t your place to fight his battles - he has to do that on his own - so leave that situation be, as well.
February 27th, 2008 at 12:36 am
.Unfortunately you can not change a person.; The only thing you can do is change your view on them. Nothing will make her stop being a bitch,
February 29th, 2008 at 8:14 am
If you say anything your brother is the one who suffers. He is going to have to get up his own nerve and say something to her. Find a different place to move to. Trouble is a brewing.
March 3rd, 2008 at 6:00 pm
Why are you moving in with them? That is a huge mistake. Find somewhere else to live.
March 5th, 2008 at 4:29 pm
tlk 2 ur brother bout it n if he doesbt lyke wat u say 2 tlk her n if that doesnt work smack that B***h
March 7th, 2008 at 5:33 am
talk to yur bro bout this…ask him if he really would want to spend his life with a bitch
March 9th, 2008 at 1:50 pm
well I think you should talk to your brother first about what is bothering you
if that does not work then talk to her
and as a last resort just tell her what you think of her and what she can do to be better
March 10th, 2008 at 3:31 pm
if you are moving in with them you have to try and get alone. just bite your tongue and smile a lot. i would really think about if it is worth the headache to live with them. it will only get worse. god bless you and help you Thur this.
March 11th, 2008 at 10:29 am
Ask for a moment of her time when she doesn’t seem too busy and ask her what it is thats’ rubbing her the wrong way?
Try to explain to her that you want to get along with her, for your brothers’ sake and if theres’ anything you did that has angered her that you’re sorry for it, and if you can do anything to rectify the situation.
Its usually a mis-understanding between people that causes them to harbor ill-feelings towards someone, when there shouldn’t have been a problem in the first place.
March 14th, 2008 at 2:35 am
move out ASAP that all i can say,
March 15th, 2008 at 3:02 pm
If you are in a situation where you have to move in with them I suggest you “suck it up” and learn to live around her. If she is being nice enough to have you in her home you need to respect her. You do not have to agree with the way they live or how she treats your brother….that would be his problem.
Your best bet is to get a job and save enough to move out as soon as possible and not cause any problems while you are in their home. Keep your opinions to yourself or share them with a trusted friend outside of their home. Remember not everyone has family that would be willing or able to take them in. Maybe you will even learn that there is more to your sister-in-law than you have seen up to now…keep your mind and eyes and ears open and you might learn something new you didn’t expect. Good luck.
March 16th, 2008 at 12:28 pm
If you think she is a *****, then don’t leave with them.
You’ll always find different kind of people in your life. You need to learn how to deal with different situations. I don’t think this is a very tricky situation.
March 18th, 2008 at 5:57 am
Usually when someone is a real *****, it’s because they aren’t happy with themselves or their life situation. There must be something good in her for your brother to have married her. If you try to look past the surface and see the good then try to show it to her, she may change her tune. Too often people get caught up in their anger and sorrow and they forget to look at the positive side of life. Try to help her do that. Praise her and show gratitude to her whenever you get a chance and she may soften a little. This will also be a good opportunity for you to practice compassion for another human being who may not be able to see things very clearly.
March 18th, 2008 at 5:58 pm
It is none of your business who your brother married or how he is treated. That is his business. You may not like it, but you need to “butt out.”
It is also a really bad idea to move in with the attitude you have. You need to decide right now, that she can’t be all bad or you wouldn’t be allowed to move in. She may be very unhappy or ill or something. Your brother may not be Superman to live with, either.
Kill her with kindness. Help out around the house, without being asked. Mow the grass, fill their tank with gas. Keep the noise down. Clean up after yourself.
Show them both that you are GRATEFUL for the help they are giving you.
Try to be a really good roommate. It will be really good practice for you in the future, when you are out on your own, and can have a housemate or spouse
Don’t ever call her names, show her respect, and she may come around. Save as much money as you can to get out of there fast.
Meanwhile, be as nice to live with as you possibly can be.
What do you mean you never get to have dinner? Do you mean, she won’t cook for you or she expects you to get your own? Or what?
Ask her what she wants from you-nicely. Then try to give it as much as possible. You ARE moving into HER house (too), ya know.
Good luck.
March 21st, 2008 at 1:42 pm
I don’t know where your parents are that you would need to live with your brother since you sound young. As far as your brother goes he takes her orders so he must not have a problem with it. As far as you go I would stay clear and keep to myself as I try to save some money to move out on my own.
March 23rd, 2008 at 10:11 pm
So why are you moving in with them? Just think, your brother must like how she is, because he puts up with it. Or is it something else going on all together and this is made up?
March 27th, 2008 at 9:22 am
oh.. you have one of those..
i wouldn’t move in with them.. you will have problems with them because your brother will not be on your side and so you will end up getting mad at him too.
don’t move in with them.