husband cheated………..?
December 29th, 2007
Okay, we worked things deceived … Happened 3 - 5 months ago … And I have just discovered about a month ago … We are trying to jobs in the body of a training programme … He will be in a dormitory and boys will be in a dormitory of girls …. We still see each other … Do you guys think this is a good ideal with him not cheating, which long ago … Is not going to be a lot of girls and boys in our time frame ….. Do you think it will take a mistake ?….
December 29th, 2007 at 8:16 pm
BOTH OF YOU WILL IN THIS TYPE OF ENVIRONMENT.
January 1st, 2008 at 3:13 pm
Either you can trust him or you can’t. Simple as that and only you know the answer.
BTW, calling it a mistake is BS. He’s an adult and can control his actions.
January 1st, 2008 at 6:50 pm
I dont know but talk to him and make it clear to him that you dont to be hurt again because you love him. He probably regrets cheating on you…so dont think to much about it and talk to him
January 4th, 2008 at 5:23 pm
once a cheater always a cheater… if they can do it once they will do it again. it will always be in your mind what he did… poor trust or lack of trust equals bad relationship/marriage… all i can say is i hope he really doesn’t do it again. good luck
January 8th, 2008 at 4:31 am
You allowed him back into your life now you need to learn how to gain that trust back. It was your decision to take him back.
January 11th, 2008 at 3:18 am
Of course he will once a cheat always a cheat. That statement is true.
January 13th, 2008 at 12:08 pm
You have to determine if you can trust him again. After cheating, there are going to be trust issues. If he really cares about you and the marriage and your future, he will resist temptation and focus building that trust back up with you. If you want to work things out, you should give him an opportunity to build trust. I am not saying that you should be a pushover and let him walk all over you, but don’t go accusing him of cheating every chance you get. That will kinda drive him away and have him lose interest in building that trust back up with you. Just make sure you give him another chance since you decided to make it work. And do it little by little and go day by day. Trust takes a long time to build and unfortunately, it can be toppled down in an instant.
Good luck lady and I hope things work out!
January 13th, 2008 at 12:44 pm
job corp is for ppl in the age of 17 to 23.
if ur in that age frame and he has cheated, you need to move on, you both. From what u said,both of u need to grow up and mature before “working things out”
January 16th, 2008 at 1:40 pm
depends on whether or not he is a good man. If he cheats again, he is not a real man. Leave him and go find the man that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. With respect, loyalty and love. Someone that you can have children with. Someone your boys will want to be like and your daughters can look for in their husband
January 17th, 2008 at 10:13 pm
mistakes the only mistake you made was working things out people don’t change. Once a cheat always a cheat.
January 18th, 2008 at 8:07 am
Honestly once a cheater always a cheater. My ex told me over and over again. ” I promise I wont do it again”, and I took him back. But after a few months he cheated again. Silly me, I took him back again, and he cheated yet again for the 3rd and last time. I dumped his a**. I would say end things before you get hurt. My ex actually told me that temptation played a role in cheating and curiousity. He wanted to know how it would be with females he came across. I was young and quite dumb. Speaking in a mature mind, I say leave the zero and get a hero. Trust me, it will happen again.
January 19th, 2008 at 11:41 am
My question to all people who have had this problem: Why stay with someone that you have trust issues with?
January 22nd, 2008 at 6:41 am
Regardless if you go into the job corp if he is going to cheat he is going to do it no matter where you are.
January 23rd, 2008 at 8:01 am
cheating is not a mistake, its a choice he made. obviously you are still worried, if he was faithful, all the temptation in the world couldnt change his mind.