I can’t stand my bitchy sister in law! Help?
February 13th, 2008My husband has three sisters, one of which is a real bitch. She has to copy everything I do. She pretends she knows everything about fashion. Just turned her hair color from black to blonde. Pierced her nose. Got a tattoo. Mind you she is a mother of 2 kids but pretends she was never married. She keeps insulting me when we meet at family gathering. Her husband is a workaholic and behaves odd all the time.I guess she’s not getting enough from him that’s why she wants cheap publicity .
Thanks guys…your advice meant alot to me. I really feel better now.
February 15th, 2008 at 5:42 pm
Ignore her out of respect for your husband. It is not worth the trouble. Every family has an idiot or two in it.
February 18th, 2008 at 7:39 pm
Her husband is probably cheating on her.
February 21st, 2008 at 1:39 pm
Will the real question please stand up?!
February 23rd, 2008 at 4:19 pm
Duh. She’s jealous. Its a b*tchy form of flattery. Dont let it bother you - shes the one hung up on herself. Nothing you can do to make her get over it.
Maybe just for fun, wear something really stupid to see if she will copy that too hehehehe
February 26th, 2008 at 7:50 am
I HATE MY SISTER IN-LAW TOO…SHES A 2 FACED ….FAKE B****!! HAHA
February 29th, 2008 at 2:33 am
she is probably very jealous of you and thinks you have it much better and hates you for it.
If you are more interested in quieting her down than being right, you might get her off your back if you start complaining how bad your life is and how lucky she is to have whatever it is she has. She’ll get the much needed recognition and you’llget much needed peace
February 29th, 2008 at 8:59 am
She’s copying you because she wants to be like you. So feel good about that! She insults you because that’s her way of making you look worse then her (which obviously is not the case), be the bigger person and don’t let her get to you, let her make a fool of herself. I think if you notice how she acts so does everyone else,and I’m pretty sure they are (especially her husband) embarrassed by it.
February 29th, 2008 at 6:13 pm
I really cant stand those type of people but really look at her and she is pathetic because she is a copycat and her husband works all the time to be away from her and I would just laugh and smile at her because she is a want be Compliment her next time and be nice dont let her know you would just love to slap the hell out of her.
March 3rd, 2008 at 11:51 am
she’s obviously unhappy in her life and needs to vent! i’d say, she picks on you because she could be jealous of you! if everything is good in your life and not in hers, she just wants to make you as miserable as she is…..but don’t let her get you down, when she starts to insult you just look at her like she is crazy and walk away or ignore her and she’ll eventually get the hint and she’ll feel like an idiot! good luck
March 4th, 2008 at 3:37 pm
One thing everybody wants is happiness. So, shake it off, no matter what this ***** does, she can’t have your happiness, so shine it around her! Just don’t stoop to her level, if she feels she has to insult you, she’s got issues. Let it go, ignore her the next time she does, and if she really gets pissed, which she might because your happy and ignoring her, simply tell her you’ll pray for her :).
March 6th, 2008 at 5:53 am
Just ignore her.Pretend she is not there.Don’t look or talt to her anless you really have to.
March 6th, 2008 at 4:21 pm
I mainly broke up with my ex because of his sister! It’s the sister-in-law curse. They just like to stick their noses in everything as if they are the deciders of what’s best for their brother. That’s why in my current relationship i’m lucky….. (all brothers).hehehehe
March 7th, 2008 at 10:13 pm
freak her out…..ask her out to lunch……on you
March 8th, 2008 at 8:52 am
I know the feeling. Wife has the same Biatch of a sister. Without the tattoo and with 5 kids. Envy’s our lives and tries to copy everything.
I suggest you just tell her straight. I did, and we just don’t hold any fake conversations. Just the civil hello is good enough. Her family hates me, the kids have no respect for me, but my wife loves me and we could both care less about them and their f up attitudes.
March 11th, 2008 at 5:39 pm
your door of life can be answered by you or leave them knocking ,,,,only you let in those into your life,,,, no-one else is to blame so dont answer the door when she,s knocking you down just say good things to her and this will confuse her to the point
March 14th, 2008 at 5:53 pm
cant you blame her husband by not giving her any ………just ignore her or dont be around her period or put her back in her place.or smile at her make her wonder what your up too be nice to her and smile that will mess with her head
March 16th, 2008 at 12:47 am
OK, you say she copies everything you do. I had one of those once and it drove me nuts! Mine could not even pick out a hair color unless she found out what I was using, so she could go get that color. They say, imitation is the highest form of flattery, but I would rather not be flattered! Sounds like this woman has some serious issues,. if I were you, I would only be around her …only when I had to! Her husband is probably as big a nut as she is. . .
March 16th, 2008 at 4:11 pm
I have one of those…. For years, she aggrivated me and nothing I did to stop it worked. One day I invited her to lunch to confront her. I started the meeting nicely, asking about her and her family. It was the longest lunch date I’ve ever had. She started out in her usual crabby way,but ended up pouring out a heartful of problems. I decided to listen while I had the chance, and chose only to respond with phrases like: “that must have hurt badly,” or ” I can see how much that bothers you.” I prompted more outpouring by asking things like: “How do/did you feel about that?” or ” Why do you think that happened?” … I will admit I really didn’t want to hear any of it, or get to know her, but after awhile, I realized that she had never really talked things out with anyone since becoming an adult, after living a difficult and defensive childhood, and I wasn’t going to add to her problems. I let her run on as long as she needed. We parted with my telling her that I was glad to have had our talk, and I hugged her and told her to be kind to herself - she deserved it. Two days later, she dropped by to ask if I had (something or other) she could borrow, which she never took, but ended up apologizing for years of hurting me. It seems she never felt good enough or wanted by anyone. She evidently had done a lot of thinking in the two days since our lunch, and even mentioned harms to me I had forgotten. It was interesting to discover that every time she harmed someone, she felt guilty, but the guilt made her even more defensive and awful to them at their next encounter. She poured out a lot that day, too, but it was from a self-assessing perspective. After that, she sought me out in family situations, rather as moral support. I watched her mend bridges with so many people, it was stunning. Now she is so loving and everyone adores her. I am so fortunate to know this woman, and her story has made me see myself and others differently. Almost every witchy person has had similar pain, I’ve discovered. Maybe your sister-inlaw does, too. I hope she ends up being a blessing in your life, like mine did. Best of Luck!
March 17th, 2008 at 10:16 pm
Sisters-in-laws are generally nosy interfering jealous bitches. They seem to think they know whats best for their brother. I agree with one of the other answerers, dress up in something hideous just to see if the poor soul follows your lead. Otherwise, just totally ignore the silly wench whenever you can get away with it, (never in front of your husband though). Be smart about it, you dont want to look like a cow in front of him!!
Good luck