Irritating Mother-In-Law…Help!?
January 23rd, 2008She is bossy. We are buying a new home, I planned for the colors. I am going to paint the cabinets because they are too dark. Botti and because you only need to be cleaned. I said because I do not like. He went up to my husband told his mother that we do not like them. Then the children began rooms. My younger son wants his blue and white theme with a skateboard. The oldest wants Hawaiian blue and white with a beach theme. They both want loft beds. She had with her in a group that most of all. Oh, and two weeks ago, he wanted to come paint. Ummm no! I can not take the stress of his being there. Our current came home while we were on holiday and reorganized my cabinets. Skillets told me that do not go into the oven. Who cares? This is where I like them and saves space cabinet. Help! I can not take his bossiness much more. I want to tell her this way and she starts with … well I would She complains to him, who knows not to use. He does what it wants. He told her to stop and back off or she continues. I said that this aspect I like what is mine. Still no good. The breed German shepherds and the friend who is usually when we went out of town was too, and then had to have a key to make sure that the dogs were fed and watered (not had puppies at the moment).
January 24th, 2008 at 1:29 pm
Tell her how it is but nicely. Don’t give her the keys to your house.
January 25th, 2008 at 12:03 pm
Step 1: Don’t make her a spare key to this new house!
I don’t think there’s much you can do though. The good thing is your husband isn’t siding with her. If she starts up with her “I would…” just tell her, “That’s the way I like it and that’s THAT!”
I wish you the best with everything and congratulations on your new house!
January 26th, 2008 at 5:52 pm
Well your husband already speaks up to her , so lay it on him to get mom to back of a little , tell him this and ask him too straighten her out a little more.
January 29th, 2008 at 8:55 am
Honestly, what I have found to work is to ignore. Just walk away from her. If she has something to say then, tell her why you are ignoring her. Now if it has anything to do with your kids or how you parent, you need to speak up. JMO
January 30th, 2008 at 4:00 pm
I have the same irritating aunt. I suggest that you should have an adult discussion with the two of you alone. Tell her that your want to spoil your kids once in a while, that she has to let you and your husband to parent you children alone so that you can teach them not to learn the mistake’s you made. Tell her politely that you can’t learn to be a much better mother if she’s around all the time. Also explain to her that it’s your home and you want it to be a “home sweet home” kind of thing for you and your kids.
January 31st, 2008 at 9:41 am
nie doesnt work with all people, just tell her to shut up and go away, she is not welcome with her bossy suggestions. I have a g.s. for 11 years now, what a beauty he is.
February 2nd, 2008 at 5:27 am
Listen to the song ‘Mother of mine’.
Mother of mine, you gave to me / All of my life, to do as I please / I owe everything, I have to you / Mother, sweet mother of mine.
Mother of mine, when I was young/ You showed me the way, things have to be done / Without your love, where would I be / Mother, sweet mother of mine.
Mother, you gave me happiness / Much more than words can say / I pray the Lord that He may bless you / Every night and every day.
Mother of mine, now I have grown / And can walk straight, all of my own / I’d like to give you what you gave to me / Mother, sweet mother of mine.
A prayer that says
‘Itnee shakti haame de na Daata,
maan ki biswas kamjor ho na’.
It means, ‘Oh my lord (the Giver) give us so much of strength that our belief never gets weakened to serve you i.e. the society, family
“Your small sorrows will fly away
Chirping busily like sparrows,
You ought to use only good words
Not deadly bows and arrows.
Best way to win every heart
Share your joys to multiply
And confide to minimise sorrows.”
- Subhas Chandra Kar
Practice it you will gain and be the winner.
All the best. God will be by your side.
February 3rd, 2008 at 1:15 am
Try playing it in reverse. Thank the witch for her ideas and suggestions. Tell her you’ll consider hers and everyone elses opinions with your honey. Then do what makes you happy. If she persists tell her you don’t want to upset her but it’s probably a good idea if she not go to the kids’ rooms cuz they’re painted the way YOu wanted them.
February 3rd, 2008 at 11:28 am
she is mean
February 6th, 2008 at 3:41 am
Change the locks on the house, put a lock on the back gate. Make sure that you have a person to check on your dogs and another person as a back up in case they are unable to do so. That way she won’t have an excuse to have a key to your house. I would not have her over for painting and if she asks just tell her that you already have enough help. Don’t put up with it, it’s your house and your stuff. It needs to be the way you and your family want it to be. Hold your ground.