My Brother needs help?
April 18th, 2008
Well The thing is my brother a 7th grader is overweight,has plenty of acne,non-athletic,and on the computer everyday for atleast 8 hours total and 12 hours total on weekends.Reading all this is will sound as if he has some social problems….Thats because he does.He gets home from school and the thought of taking a shower doesn’t even cross his mind.He gets immediately on the computer,and begins to play “Runescape” a free online game where you can interact with other people.but the graphics are lousy.He doesn’t eat till 6 and he gets home at 3? and eats dinner at 10…..
He doesn’t have friends at school>…
Knowing all of this it doesn’t look like hes spending his childhood wisely.
Could you provide any ideas on how to help,
April 18th, 2008 at 7:43 am
You should get him out. Maybe talk to your parents about taking away the comp for a while until he takes up healthier habbits. He’s at such a good age to learn new healthy behaviors. He needs to get involved with sports, nomatter how he may perform. Or really, anything outside of the home.
Congrats for taking action!
He will hate you at first and thank you later!
April 18th, 2008 at 12:19 pm
yeah, your parents need to learn some parenting skills, i am not saying this to be rude, just honest, they need to take him to the doctor and get some medicine for his acne problem and to get ideas on how to deal with his weight problem. Also, why dont you try to get him to go places with you. A little activity wont hurt him either.
April 21st, 2008 at 2:34 pm
you shouold get him invloved in a youth group of some time or maybe tell him to try out at school at some extra terricular activities. he could meet some people who have some of his same intrests and then he could stop spending so much time on his computer
April 23rd, 2008 at 7:04 pm
im surprised your parents have not banned him from being on the computer
thats really unhealthy to be on it each day for that long (not that I can talk .. lol im always on yahoo) but im old ..
your parents/guardians whomever need to ban him from using the computer or put it in a place where they will know hes using it and monitor him.
he needs to find a hobby (other than a PC) say a sport or something to meet other people etc
He also needs continuous encouragement to do other things
April 26th, 2008 at 6:55 am
Approach him n make him ur friend, take him into ur confidence…if u take a strong stand, n straight out ask him ..y doesnt he have friends or other things …he wud rebel. be patient n make him approach u n admit it himself that he needs help. its a long process that needs patience.hope it helps!
April 28th, 2008 at 12:41 am
Help him acquire a reading habit. And control the books, get it?
April 30th, 2008 at 12:44 pm
Tell him that maybe he should get out more.I have a cousin that is over weight i sat him down privately and told him.Now hes trying to lose weight because I told him I’d be there every step of the way.
May 3rd, 2008 at 3:40 am
get him involved in clubs. put him in somthing he might like. hell thank you later. goodluck! and i hope your bro finds a friend!
May 4th, 2008 at 12:03 am
The fact that you’ve asked advice on your brother’s behalf, tells me that you care about him.
These are rough waters for you as a brother. Remember that you brother is unique and valuable. His strengths and weaknesses are different from yours so it is important that you allow him space to be himself.
The other thing that you must balance into the equation is that being a teenager in itself is difficult never mind acne and weight issues.
Here’s what you CAN do . You can lift your brother’s spirits by thinking through the last time you saw him smile or seem confident. You may see this while he is on-line which may be why he’s “glued” to the internet.
If your relationship is based on trust you may ask him what exactly happens on-line that is sooooo valuable? It may give you a few insights as to what makes your brother an amazing guy.
That game he plays may accentuate his sense of development or improvement (sorry, I’m not up on the computer games). He may even serve as the “hero” figure in a game…You would have to extract that out of him and then determine where in life this may become useful off-line.
Does this help?
May 5th, 2008 at 5:52 pm
May be you could try to do some after school activities together and try to make sure that they don’t involve using a computer for long periods of time. Spend quality time with him so he has some sort of social relationship.
May 5th, 2008 at 6:04 pm
IM so SORRY for you why don’t you try asking him to play some sports with you or to go to the gym with you.Maybe he’ll go
May 6th, 2008 at 11:43 pm
Seeing him from what you have described online makes your brother look like unsocialized and badly needs help. You are right when you say that his not spending his childhood wisely. But have you actually thought of when this pattern started?Maybe you spend time with him. Don’t antagonize him and this might shunt him more. Seek help also with your parents.
May 8th, 2008 at 10:09 pm
Um are you older or younger than him? It is kind of you to try to help but if your a sibling why are you asking on line? If your parents aren’t concerned (unless you are his caregiver) you should be careful about on line advice.