5 Ways to Zap “Mommy Guilt”

I remember, almost 14 years ago, bringing my son Kai home from the hospital. We had borrowed an old car seat from someone we knew. I placed all 6 lbs 14 oz. of him into the car seat and suddenly burst into tears. The car seat was way too big for him. I really felt I had failed him. I mean what kind of mother doesn’t know he needed an infant car seat? The sudden awareness that I didn’t know what I was doing hit me like a ton of bricks. The nurses were gone and I was on my own. From the moment you become pregnant until the day you or your child dies, you try to be the very best mom you can be to your children.

It doesn’t take long, however, before you make mistakes. Parenting doesn’t go as planned. Your children do outrageous things. Accidents happen. Feelings get hurt. Children go down the wrong path. Your marriage struggles. And the feelings of guilt inevitably follow. It doesn’t matter if your children are young or grown; motherhood guilt is always a struggle.

So how can you minimize those pesky, guilty feelings? Here are some helpful tips to help you zap the guilt and enjoy the journey of motherhood.

Stop Comparing Yourself and Your Children to Others

Is Kayla sitting up yet? When did Matthew start walking? My child knows all her colors and the whole alphabet and she’s only two. Comparing our children to other children is an easy trap to fall into. But it is not healthy for our children or us as moms because every child is different. They each have different strengths, weaknesses, developmental patterns and personalities. Let your children be who they are and avoid the comparison game.

Just like you shouldn’t compare your children to other children, the same goes for you. Let go of any need you have to compare yourself to other moms. Todd Parr wrote a great children’s book called “The Mommy Book”. In this book, he talks about how all mommies are different. Some mommies like to cook and some like to order pizza. Some mommies work in tall office buildings and some work at home. I have a friend who is the epitome of June Cleaver. Almost all her meals are home cooked. She makes all her children’s Halloween costumes. She is totally organized and structured with her children’s school work and activities. If I compare myself to her, I am plagued with feelings of guilt. I make Hamburger Helper for my family, purchase all their Halloween costumes and I consistently fail at structure with my kids. But I’m still a great mom, and so is she. It’s okay to be different. As simple as writing.

Accept Your Limitations as Well as Your Children’s

You don’t have to be all things to your children and your children don’t have to be all things to you. In other words, it’s okay if you make mistakes. And your children deserve the same grace. One of the things I often struggle with is thinking I need to be my child’s constant playmate. I have to be honest. Sometimes I don’t feel like playing cars or looking at another car magazine. Sure, my child may feel disappointed if I say no, but it doesn’t mean I am not being a good mother. I have my limits and I need to respect them. All moms have limits. When we go over our limits, we usually become irritable and short-tempered. Exceeding our limits can cause a vicious cycle of behaving in a way that makes us feel guilty.

Your children have limitations too. No need to do schools research to understand that. Just because a child has a bad day of misbehavior doesn’t mean you are doing something wrong. While I was on vacation this past week, there were days that my 3-1/2 year old was a little monster. He was in time out constantly. Of course, all the other little children around were perfectly well behaved. At one point, I was exasperated and I asked my aunt, “What is wrong with him?” My aunt reassured me that he is fine - he’s just being a kid. It’s times like this that we often question our parenting. Sometimes I think it’s helpful to just understand that motherhood has its good days and bad days and it has very little to do with our ability to parent our children.

Apologize When You Are Wrong

Let’s face it. Sometimes we blow it. We say or do something to our child that we immediately regret. If this ever happens to you, apologize immediately. Our children then learn that we are human and we make mistakes. Children are very forgiving and forgiveness conquers guilt. There is nothing more humbling than being able to admit when we behaved in a way we know is wrong.

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Before we begin, you should know that our goal is to give you as much useful info about fall wedding favor, as we can fit on our page Though there are a lot of people that love to marry in the summer, there are others that favor the other three seasons. Spring and fall are often close seconds, as they are usually cooler, and you can marry indoors or out as long as you pick the right date. Fall weddings often go with the fall theme, and that means you have a lot of neat fall wedding favor ideas that you can use. While you can buy these in the stores, and sometimes those pressed for time will find this to be a blessing, there are many that you can do on your own if you wish. The most common theme for fall wedding favors is the colorful leaves of fall. The reason these are so popular is because they are so beautiful, and because these colors can also work for the colors in your wedding otherwise. Coppers, greens, yellows, oranges, and reds are the most common and they look great together. Your fall wedding favors can easily revolve around this theme and you can do whatever it is that you want. You can tie your favors in a fall theme into what you use for your invitations, thank you notes, and your wedding program as well.

Going through the final part of this article, we will see just how important the subject can be to many people. You can use real leaves for your fall wedding favors if you have access to them, but the fake variety you can buy will look great as well. The trick is to get them when they are not yet brittle, or your favors will fall apart. This is why many go with the fake leaves you can buy at your local craft store. They will often have a section of these things so that you can find all of your wedding favors for fall nuptials all in one place. You may find many more great ideas just because they have given you great suggestions by placing all of your possibilities in one place. When putting together your fall wedding favors, think of ways to make the leaves the main part of the favor. You can find unique ways to wrap the leaves around your bubbles, if you intend to use them, and you can also use them as a cover for small, personal photo albums. You can use decoupage to affix them to votive candle holders, just be sure you are doing it in a way so that they are not fire hazards. The possibilities for fall wedding favors are almost endless, so have a look around online for some great ideas you can expand upon for your own personal wedding treats. When we learn, we continue to be smarter. Therefore, learning about fall wedding favor has already assisted your “knowledge base” more than you could imagine.

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Many people seek out therapists for a wide variety of reasons. Perhaps you have issues dealing with stress. It could be that you have trouble in a relationship, or you might even have issues from your past that are affecting your future. Sometimes, you may just need to talk – and a therapist will make that very easy for you. But there is one problem that many therapists face – not all clients are completely honest with them.

Complete honesty is vital when talking with your therapist. They can’t help you if they don’t know the truth about what is going on, or how you feel about it. We have been conditioned, as humans, to keep information that we deem private to ourselves, but in the course of working with your therapist, this only serves to make matters worse in many cases, and doesn’t help at all.

This doesn’t mean that you are likely to walk into the therapist’s office and tell outright lies! It means that you may not be totally forthcoming with the truth, simply because you are afraid to let others know your personal business. When this happens, it may lead the therapist to believe that things are completely different than what they actually are, in terms of events or feelings that are affecting your life.

You don’t have to worry about what you tell your therapist. These professionals are bound by laws and ethics that prevent them from telling other people your secrets. You are not conversation for their dinner table. Furthermore, they won’t judge you.

What they may do when you are honest with them, however, is to ensure that you receive the proper type of therapy. They may even discover that you need a different professional to help you with your problem, depending on what the problem is. A great deal can be gained by being honest with your therapist.

Furthermore, there is a great deal to be saved when you are honest with your therapist. If you are honest about what is going on, and how you feel from the outset, you will find that the therapy that you require doesn’t take nearly as long as it might have if you were not completely honest from the beginning. This in turn saves you money – not to mention time.

So, when you visit your therapist, relax, and be prepared to be completely open and honest with them. Tell them everything – and answer their questions to the best of your ability. You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain! The fact is, if you can’t be honest with your professional therapist, you probably have a hard time being honest with others – including yourself.

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Jennifer B. Baxt, LMHC, LMFT offers online audio/video counseling as well as works with children, individuals, couples, geriatric patients, depression, bipolor, anxiety and substance abuse.Jennifer B. Baxt, LMHC, LMFT offers online audio/video counseling as well as works with children, individuals, couples, geriatric patients, depression, bipolor, anxiety and substance abuse. Please contact jennifer@completecounselingsolutions.com or http://www.completecounselingsolutions.com for any further information.

You never thought it would happen to you. But now here you are today… faced with the most important decision of your life.

No matter what circumstances led to the current condition of your marriage, all that doesn’t matter anymore. All that matters now is that you need to find a solution to your marriage problems. You desperately want to keep your family together, but the problem is - you want a solution that works.

Most people think that when marriages take a turn for the worst; the only solution is marriage counseling.

But when you turn to marriage counseling, the focus is on behavior, action and doing. And in fact, it’s very possible that you could DO all the tips, techniques and offered to you by your marriage counselor, yet still wind up unhappy and frustrated with each other. Why?

Pastor and international marriage expert, Mark Gungor’s has one of the best answers I’ve seen. He makes a wonderful point that we just don’t hear enough. Here’s what he said:

“If your view of marriage is flawed, all the energy and strategy you are using (such as our marriage will be better if we just do this or change that) will end in failure…you must work on your marriage BECAUSE you believe it IS valuable, not because you are trying to make it valuable.”

Did you know that most marriage counselors do not believe your marriage IS valuable? Many of them have already divorced, so why would they see your marriage as any more valuable than their own?

They believe marriage is simply expendable and that the kids will be ok. They hold the belief that not all couples are meant to be together which is why they are so quick to give up on your marriage.

Now I know I’m making a generalization about ALL marriage counselors and I do realize that there are some “renegade” marriage counselors who do not follow these beliefs. But based on the countless “horror stories” from the couples I’ve worked with over the years, these counselors are few and far between.

What kind of “horror stories” you ask? Good question.

I know this may be difficult to believe, but many of the couples I’ve worked with over the years who have attended marriage counseling told me that their marriage counselor actually advised them to DIVORCE!

These couples attended marriage counseling because they wanted to save their marriage, not hear from an “expert” that their marriage is hopeless!

In fact, there have been statistics recently that stated 80% of marriages that end up in divorce could have been saved if the couple had only received the proper help they needed.

And as time goes on…while our divorce rate continues to remain at 50%, the truth about marriage counseling is increasingly gaining more exposure with new alternatives to marriage counseling popping up all over the net.

Now the REAL question you must ask yourself is this…

If the two of you don’t believe your marriage IS valuable, and worth doing every positive thing you can to make it healthy again (marriage counseling not in the list), then what hope can you have for your marriage?

The reason couples end up in the offices of marriage counselors is because they want somebody to help them do what they’re not able to do… believe their marriage IS valuable. Talk to virtually any couple who has been to a marriage counselor and you’ll find them in agreement.

But the sad truth is that most marriage counselors just don’t believe marriage itself IS valuable.

What all this boils down to is this:

Marriage Counselors need to take a good look at their massive failure rate and realize that they’re doing more harm than good.

Ultimately, the real reason for their failure to save marriages may have something to do with their initial schooling and education.

Most people don’t know this, but marriage counseling as taught in universities isn’t marriage counseling at all. It’s therapy for individuals.

80% of all private practice marriage counselors in the U.S. say they conduct marriage therapy, yet only 12% are in a profession that requires them to take EVEN ONE course on dealing with couples, (Dr. William J. Doherty, Minneapolis MN)

As a result, they prefer to work with each person individually, instead of as a couple.

So my advice to you is…

If you’re considering seeing a marriage counselor, take this as your alternative view. If your marriage problems persist, you’re far better off with a weekend marriage seminar or a marriage coach than a marriage counselor.

In fact, do a quick search in Google for “alternative to marriage counseling”. What you’ll find is a variety of solutions that don’t involve marriage counseling. And very often these alternatives are less expensive, less invasive and not at all emotionally draining – much unlike what you might find in traditional marriage counseling.

25 Meaningful Ideas for Families

This list of tips and advice will help you to preserve piece in your families. More meaningful ideas tips on the way.

1. Go for a family nature walk near your home to collect seasonal items that you can use in your holiday decor. If you live near a forest, the obvious choices are pine boughs and pinecones, but long dried grasses can look just as festive tied with a holiday bow.

2. Make a few handmade holiday cards this year as a family.

3. Make appreciation cards. Replace the annual Christmas letter in your holiday cards with a brief letter of appreciation for the recipient.

4. Create or purchase new ornaments each year for the tree. Create or shop for an ornament that reflects a defining event or sentiment for the year.

5. Enjoy a Family Night with special holiday crafts or games.

6. Start a Christmas-themed puzzle somewhere in your home. A puzzle table, placed in a quiet room is great for holiday visitors. Whenever your guests want to get away from the action, they can retreat to work on the puzzle. This can be a great stress reliever, and it’s wonderful for those guests who always have to be busy doing something.

7. Play special music. What is everyone’s favorite holiday CD? Allow each family member to choose and keep them in the CD changer so everyone’s musical taste is represented.

8. Take a photo of your children standing in a particular spot each year - in front of the tree, by the front door - any place that will be consistent from year to year. Make a special holiday ornament or scrapbook album that depicts the growth and change of your family each year.

9. Research the holiday traditions of your nationality. Adopt a few of these traditions into your annual celebration each year to celebrate your heritage.

10. Ask each child to write a Dear Santa letter. Keep a special record of these letters in an album or treasure box.

11. Create an evening tradition of taking a family walk or drive in your neighborhood to view the holiday lights.

12. Cut snowflakes from wrapping paper, festive holiday advertisements, or last year’s holiday cards, and string them together into a festive garland.

13. Adopt a special cause each year and spend some time as a family helping those in need.

14. What are your favorite holiday memories? Pose the question tonight at the dinner table. Use your family’s answers to plan this year’s celebration.

15. For fifteen minutes, write down things in your life that you are grateful for. Ask each of your family members to join you in creating their own lists.

16. Bundle up and head outside. Make snow angels or build a snow fort with your kids. When it’s time to warm up, build a cozy fire and roast marshmallows in your living room.

17. What’s your favorite homemade holiday treat? Write down the recipe, and share it with your friends. Encourage them to do the same.

18. Challenge each member of your family to fill a box or bag full of items to give away.

19. What was the best book you read this year? With whom would you most like to share its message? Purchase a copy for them and drop it off, anonymously.

20. Take your family to a performance of The Nutcracker. Purchase a CD or DVD of the Nutcracker to bring the memories home.

21. The holidays can take their toll. Make a holiday tradition of recharging your own batteries. Gather your daughter and your best friend and head to the day spa for a much deserved pedicure or massage.

22. Reach out to those whom you haven’t seen all year. It takes a little extra effort this busy time of year, but make a goal to send a card or note to someone you think about but don’t see much anymore.

23. Keep a “Joy Journal” this holiday season, in which you record the funny things your kids say, joyful times you share, your favorite things to do with your family (and by yourself), and all the things for which you are grateful. Use your Joy Journal as a reminder of the facets of your life (and this holiday season) that are really important.

24. Give small and simple gifts (homemade cookies or a small book) to a few of the people who make your everyday life easier, such as the trash collector and postal carrier.

25. Share your family traditions with friends and ask them to tell you about the family traditions that make their holidays sweeter.

For those who are in big problems, think about way to find a marriage counselor, this can help a lot if you know how to make a wise choice of the specialist.

Dealing with life’s many peaks and valleys can wear on a relationship, even that ones that appear to be indestructible. Even after years of smooth sailing, communication can break down and anger and frustration can take over. When such negative patterns take hold, people feel hurt and confused as to why things have suddenly gone sour. If communication isn’t revived and the problems aren’t addressed, they will no doubt escalate over time. Many couples attempt to repair their problems on their own, and depending on the severity of their issues, sometimes they are successful–sometimes they are not. One solution is to seek couples counseling. If you live in the Raleigh-Durham area, there are a number of excellent marriage counselors nearby. When it comes to things like marriage counseling, Raleigh, NC certainly has the resources–you’d be hard-pressed not to find a therapist that both parties are comfortable working with.

Marriage counselors everywhere are helping couples re-establish good communication, and put peace and stability back into their relationships. This is not to say that a healthy relationship isn’t possible again without couples counseling, but studies have proven that couples who seek therapy have better chances of improving than couples who don’t. When relationships have problems, it’s because the individuals that comprise the relationships are bringing different issues to the table. Marriage counseling is based on the premise that these problems are best handled as a unit, and in the context of the relationship. When a relationship sets the pace for a downward spiral with repetitive arguments, resentment, and distance, couples counseling can be a highly effective tool for objectifying the situation.

As we mentioned above, there are research outcomes that allude to the overall effectiveness of couples counseling. Here are a few of those findings:

* 75 percent of couples that have had marriage counseling are better off than similar couples who have not.
* 65 percent of couples that receive therapy report significant improvement based on averaged marital “satisfaction” scores.
* While most couples benefit from therapy, both spouses don’t necessarily experience the same outcomes.
* Therapies that produce the greatest gain tend to affect a couple’s emotional bonds and help the spouses work together to achieve a greater level of emotional maturity or “differentiation.” *

What’s wonderful about the times we are living in is that there is no shame in couples choosing to address their problems head-on in a therapeutic setting. Couples everywhere are making the decision to seek marriage counseling, Raleigh NC being no exception. If you reside in the Research Triangle area, you are lucky to have access to some wonderful marriage counselors. But as with anything, feel free to shop around. You want to find someone that both you and your parter are comfortable with. Ask for recommendations from people you trust or read reviews and credentials of local therapists that are readily available online.

* Center for Addiction and Mental Health. Couple therapy: Factors influencing a couple’s relationship. Available at www.camh.net/about_addiction_mental_health/couple_therapy_factors.html

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Written by Kacy Suther. Couples counseling is provided by marriage counselors Raleigh NC by Jeff Levy, marriage counseling: Raleigh NC, Apex, Cary North Carolina served. More info at http://www.couplescounseling.com .

In any marriage, even the most loving and harmonious, there will be disagreements, and the way the couple resolves conflict affects the health, vibrancy and longevity of the marriage. Some couples mistakenly believe their marriage has no chance of success if they have conflict, which may be due to the common belief that conflict is best avoided to ensure family harmony. The result of conflict avoidance is often simmering anger and deep-seated resentment about unresolved issues.

Ironically, discussing disagreements can actually create growth and intimacy in a relationship if the conflict is resolved constructively. Conflict is normal and expected, and in blended families, issues of transitioning kids, ex-spouses, financial problems and parenting differences can increase the range of disagreements with negative results

Although one of many experts in relationships and conflict resolution, Dr Scott Haltzman offers unique perspective and practical advice in his best-selling book, “The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife’s Heart Forever”. Dr Haltzman has distilled on-going research from thousands of married men into a useful guide that highlights 8 effective strategies that make marriages work.

Expect Conflict and Deal with It. helps couples gain a better understanding of conflict by describing the way men and women are biologically hardwired to deal with it, the moods and motives that cultivate disagreements, the patterns of conflicts and how to allay them. Everyone wants to feel listened to, cared for and validated, and understanding this goes a long way to helping couples resolve conflict and patch things up before they spiral out of control. This is what Dr Haltzman wants us to know about conflict 1. Happy and unhappy couples argue about the same amount of time and about the same basic issues: money, sex and housework being the three most common. 2. 69 % of disputes in a marriage are never resolved, and that’s an acceptable level. 3. Both men and women can employ constructive ways to argue, and to agree to disagree. 4. Conflict often arises due to the inherent differences in how the sexes view conflict and ways they deal with it.

Dr Haltzman describes the 4 common ways that fights accelerate. See if you recognize yourself or your partner in any of these descriptions:

Feeding the Fire: We all know the situation where a criticism or complaint is thrown out, the response being more hostility, and so it goes, until it’s a free-for-all that includes ancient history from arguments past. An escalating, major altercation cannot just be shut off like an out-of-control video game, but keeps accelerating. Strategies for calming out-of-control; include softening your tone, becoming aware of areas of agreement, focusing on the positive and “holding that emotion” ; which essentially means stopping yourself from escalating into a higher gear with hateful comments

Withdrawal and Avoidance; Men are more likely to withdraw from and not deal with a grievance than women are, and this sends a discounting message to women that makes them very irritated. Women dislike avoidance because the act of engagement makes them feel better, even though the issue may not be resolved. Men avoid and withdraw for understandable biological reasons but this will fuel the fire of conflict with the women in their lives

Negative Interpretation: Assigning unintended negative meaning to things a spouse does or doesn’t say can incite major conflict that can escalate easily, because each person is responding to something that was neither said nor intended. Spelling out one’s meaning and active listening can help reduce this.

Finger Pointing: This is the classic criticizing that requires a response, which turns into defensiveness and more criticism. The effective technique is to use statements that refer to personal perception rather than blaming one’s partner. The most important element of a conflict is how it’s resolved or patched; when a quarrel is over. Both men and women must decide whether being right is more important than preserving a happy marriage. Among newly married couples that could not patch things up after a fight, the divorce rate was 90 %, versus an 84% successful marriage rate of those who could come to an understanding.

Couples can enjoy trying out all kinds of strategies to get back on track after a disagreement; this puts the conflict behind them so they can move forward and focus on the goal of enjoying a happy marriage.

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Sheena Berg enjoys writing articles for the StepHeroes stepparenting advice newsletter at http://www.About-Blended-Families.com. To learn more about happily married men, there’s no substitute for reading “The Secrets of Happily Married Men” by Scott Haltzman, M.D. (See our video review at http://www.youtube.com/user/blendedfamilynews). You can also join our interview with Dr Haltzman when he will be our “Ask the Expert” guest on http://www.BlendedFamilyExperts.com.

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Life of a Human Being is full or troubles. It is a perfect blend of happiness as well as grief at the same point of time. Most of the times people face incidents, which is much unexpected. During different phases of life, a person can face various kinds of problems, one such important and integral phase of life starts after marriage.

Marriage is a bond between two people of different genders. Its a lifetime commitment for each other, a promise to be together in every walk of life, be it full of happiness or sorrows or a mixture of both. But above all, marriage is the most beautiful relation that every person face at a point of time in life. We get a companion for life after this pious event. But human being is so immature and impatience, they become a reason of problem for themselves due to their own selfishness or desires. To keep the spark, essence and passion in relation between life partners, mutual trust, and respect for each others opinions and feelings is necessary.

Although problems in marriage are an obvious thing, because two minds are never alike, there are some points where individual opinions of both genders can vary. Two individuals used to have different personality, a different way of thinking, different state of mind, and different approaches to handle things. Such differentiations are a reason of conflict most of the time. The situation becomes worse when ego of any of the partners or both of them clashes. There are lots of responsibilities to bear for both people associated in marriage. Both the partners used to have some expectations from their spouses. If they are not up to the mark on expectations of their spouses then the problem arises.

The common problems after a marriage can be:
1. The feeling of different attitudes, likes, and way of living among couples
2. Inability to understand each other
3. Lack of interest in each other’s life and work

The possible reasons can be:
1. Financial problems in family
2. Sexual problems
3. Lack of proper communication between partners
4. Problems with in-laws

Well all the problems and possible causes are curable, one need to be a bit more cautious for solutions. Sit and talk openly about the problems being faced. Its always the best solution to sit together and discuss the probabilities of conflict and possible solutions. There is no problem in life that is not curable. You need to be a bit more caring for spouse, and determination to solve those problems.

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At some point in your marriage you and your spouse may feel the need for some outside help in working through marital issues. You may also wish to speak to a family counselor in regards to the needs and emotional health of your family. When you’re entrusting such critical issues to someone, you want to feel certain you’ve chosen the right person.

RELIGIOUS AFFILIATION

Many religious marriage and family counselor’s are associated with a particular religion or denomination. It’s a good idea to look for a counselor who stresses the beliefs and family values that are inherent to your religion. That way, you’ll feel comfortable that you won’t be advised to take any steps that may cross the boundaries of your family’s religious and moral beliefs. A secular-based counselor may not take your family’s spirituality into account and so may not make the suggestions that are best suited for you and your spouse or children.

THE INTERVIEW

There’s no reason to just settle on working with the first counselor you speak with. Meet with several counselors. With each one, ask questions, voice concerns, and get feedback. If you are seeking marriage counseling both you and your spouse should interview the prospective counselors and if you are in need of family counseling, bring the whole family along. After the interview, ask yourself if you felt comfortable with that counselor. The counselor should answer questions without hesitation. They should project friendliness and support. Remember, you are going to be talking about very personal issues in your life with this person–you need to have a good rapport and a sense of trust with them.

The right marriage and family counselor can be a huge boon to families and couples who need to overcome some serious issues in their relationships. Just make sure to find a professional with whom everyone involved can feel comfortable working with.

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This is the inevitable truth: “The right questions before marriage determine the right success within marriage.”

Choosing the correct 100 questions before marriage will depend on each person because everyone has a different point of view of what we call relationships.

We can compare this by saying that many people “might not see marriage as a beautiful experience if they just been through a divorce, the same way that many cannot see divorce as a harsh experience if they’re just getting married.”

Individuals will choose their questions and answers depending on their experiences, and these experiences are what going to determine what they believe is correct or incorrect. Depending on each individual’s background is what going to determine their 100 questions before marriage.

However, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but not everyone is entitled to their own fact. The same way that everyone has their own truth about marriage and relationships, but not everyone has the correct universal truth about both. The universal truth itself can be recognized by perfection because imperfection leads to disorder, chaos, and the unstable way of living life.

Not everybody believes that marriage and relationships are meant to be perfect, for if they did, this world would be a different yet better place. There would be no divorce, no infidelity, no venereal diseases, no abortion, etc. The world will indeed change, if the perspective of those who ignore the truth change. The truth itself is ignored because those who know about the truth find it difficult to put into practice.

A good example is the following:

Many couples in premarital relationships know that abstinence can prevent a large number of possible consequences that can drastically change the life of three human beings (the two people involved in the situation, and the possible child that come as a result of the same). However, not everyone puts abstinence into practice because they find it very hard to stay away from lust, physical attraction and fleshly desire.

So, what are the most important 100 questions before marriage?

The only way that we can identify these questions is through knowledge, and knowledge itself can come from learning. Learning can be acquired through personal experience, literature, and the life of other people. Being able to have an open mind and not only focusing on what we believe is correct will indeed open our eyes to the real world of what is truth. The truth itself will let us know what are the correct 100 questions before marriage.

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