Tips for dating a divorcee?
January 18th, 2008
I am going back to 21 years old Marine. He is recently divorced because his wife cheated on him when he was in Iraq. For his scam, which has problems of trust - especially with women. He's told me that every day his concerns for me to be unfaithful get some 'better. I told him not to finish as I have never cheated and never will. I care deeply about him and want this to work. There were no children involved in her previous marriage, and he came from a loving family. In addition to his trust issues and the fact that he is a hardened Marine, there are other things that should worry? Someone has tips for dating a new divorcee?
January 21st, 2008 at 5:42 am
Don’t push. Between the trust issues and having a bad experience with marriage, you’re probably best off letting him set the pace with regards to building up trust and showing him what a relationship can and should be. He will hopefully eventually realize that you’re not her, and the trust issues will hopefully resolve.
Good luck!
January 22nd, 2008 at 6:15 am
You don’t say how long he has been divorced, or anything about how hard he took the divorce. Those are two big issues. Some people who have been cheated on will take two years to heal the wounds. By that time he may decide that he is looking for something else in a relationship.
You may have to face the possibility of being his rebound relationship. You know - the one that helps him get over the ex only to realize that he has changed and is now looking for another type of woman. Be very careful with him. Keep showing him that you are worthy of his trust.
January 24th, 2008 at 4:20 pm
I just think that ,if u love him truely means it dosen’t matter at all,but if he as a single doubt on u means there will be a problem,so i suggest that u dont worry about that and its in ur hands to decide.if u think that u can overcome everything means u can,and best of luck.
January 25th, 2008 at 1:21 am
you took on a big challenge, marine and divorced…not easy, your gonna have to find ways to calm his trust issues…and hes been trained not to take things for granted so its not going to be easy…communication is your best ally, and him feeling what you say is true, not just words…patience and communication over time should work in your favor….stay strong