What to expect when dating a recent divorcee?
January 18th, 2008
2 months ago I met and corresponded with someone on the personals. He placed the ad only because he was looking for friends. But instead we talk and we have a GREAT deal in common, and much like any other. However, his divorce was only 3 months ago and is (understandably) is not ready to engage in a report. I am “seeing other people”, but I am curious to what the consensus of the group would be with regard to time to keep the possibility open, especially if you have been through this before. The game is too good for him all alone dump “recommendations, we have agreed on a lot. If you have been through a bad divorce, as has long been the first to feel really open to find someone else? It was anyone else in my shoes before and work visa? How? Thanks …
January 19th, 2008 at 5:44 am
If you’re “seeing other people,” and he’s just back in the dating pool, then neither of you is ready to jump into a commitment yet. Don’t make dating this rush, rush, rush into something deeper. Commitments and relationships are much more involved than just dating, so you both need to go out for a while and see how things go. Then you can BOTH talk about going from there, but until you reach a point where you either break up or move to a more serious level… don’t complicate a simple relationship. If neither one of you has met the others’ friends or family, then you’re just dating. Take it as such, and just have fun.
January 21st, 2008 at 9:31 pm
Everyone heals at their own pace. How many people has he dated before you? I mean he just got divorced, but he may have been separated for some time. That makes a large difference. When my ex-husband and I separated (no cheating or abuse invloved), it took him only about 3 months to find the person he’d marry. Actually she was the first person he had dated after our separation (btw I’m the one that ended our marriage–we just married too young–and our marriage last 4.5 yrs). On the other hand it has taken me many years to discover who I am independently. It took me just about 3 yrs from our separation to find someone that I’m open to being in a long-term relationship with:-) (and it’s great!!) Remember everyone goes at their own pace. And all situations are different. If you feel the chemistry and it’s a shared feeling, stick with it! Let it go slowly and don’t worry about it too much… Just enjoy your time together and take it day by day.. be happy and enjoy life!
January 24th, 2008 at 7:42 pm
My sister went through the exact same thing. It can work. you just have to be patient with the individual at first because with divorce comes a lot of baggage. there are a lot of issues he might be still sorting through and right now just needs a friend. you know somebody he can relate to and talk too with out having to worry about being committed to them right now. my sister is now getting married to her fiance of two years now…well they have been engaged for a year but have been a couple for two. You cant really but a time frame on when hes gonna snap back into reality( he he he) but if you are really into this guy then just wait a awhile and be there for him with no pressure attached. hell appreciate you for it.